Like strands through the Spider's Web so are the days of our Lives

by Sean A. Robbo

You can see how the spider engineers his web from this photograph taken by Sean A. Robbo in Australia.

The web is exactly half finished here and we see how one strand pulled though the entire way makes the one-way maze a home.

And there he rests in the center before completing the project.

Seemingly suspended in midair, his whole life's dependence actually teeters on a near invisible foundation.

Still, the highest winds do not destroy this web. And, the morning dew, instead of taking down the web with the water's weight, provides for the spider his first drink of the day. The spider doesn't stress over dinner not yet landing in his parlor, nor does he care that his place isn't put together yet. All the spider thinks of is the drink he's enjoying right now and the rest he's about to resume.

For those of us who are adult children of narcissistic mothers, we have also what seems like shaky foundations, but the fact is, considering we've come through so much intact, it is clear that we are made of much more substance than what meets the eye.

Instead of replaying those tapes about not being good enough, it's time we take credit for our strength and tenacity. We were good enough to not only  survive decades of abusive control and manipulation, but to have come out the other side with a full life ready to be had says volumes about us.

Our life long near obsession for justice clearly comes from knowing what it feels like to be devalued and on the receiving end of manipulation. The reason we have been such a champion for others is that we know how this feels, and we want to learn to avoid experiencing it further as we encourage and help each other.

I have a problem with the quote "Hurt People Hurt People" because truly hurt people, knowing how this feels, would NEVER want to hurt others. The only way this might be true would be in the case of hurt people who are not yet awakened to the reality of their situation. It could be that they are unwittingly hurting others by their unawakened reactions, responses, and behaviors which are based on dysfunctional relating.

So there it is.. Our whole life's dependence teeters on a near invisible foundation. When this is magnified and in our face we have no choice but to get busy shoring up the cracks and jacking up the ends that have settled over time. Is it no wonder before this awakening we were literally limping along? Our whole foundation was off kilter, and as it settled deeper and deeper on one end or the other over the years, we used this crutch or that until even those were no longer effective.

Let us build our webs in our own meaningful way, in our own time. Let us drink the water and enjoy the moments of now. And let us continue to shore up the points and shine a light on the cracks so that we may continue to be our best selves and do our best work.