Atelphobia: Fear of not being good Enough

The only thing to fear might be not really living before actually dying

"The only thing we have to Fear is Fear itself" FDR

In a time when the entire country was in crisis, these words led the way out of peril.

"Yay though I walk through the valley of death, I Fear no Evil. For Thine art with me."

How many times have I recited this one... my goodness.  It works.

Awhoothooballah mina Shaitan Eragime.
"I take refuge in You Allah from the Devil and all his helpers."

This one I find myself reciting more often these days since I am vigilant about keeping negativity out of my inner circle.  That would include negative thoughts.. they have to go.  Also I am prepared to say only this when or if I ever hear from my golden child narcissistic sister again. I don't imagine ever hearing from the NM again (YAY) but if so, this is all that will be said in response to anything that comes out her mouth as I gently replace the phone receiver.

Fear becomes a choice.

I choose love over fear.  About the NM and the GC - I love them, but I don't have to ever speak to them again. The love for them doesn't grow. It is the same as in infancy - a kind of unconditional primal love. For my husband and children, I love them and I choose to keep them all in my life. My love for them never stops evolving and with joy upon joy.

"The Enemy is Fear. We think it is Hate but we are Wrong. It is Fear." Gandi.

True, Gandi. Fear is behind all greed and wars .... all addiction and hate. You have to have loved to hate, but fear is without love or hate. It is instead of. Once the GC narcissistic sister told me "I don't love Dad. I fear him" and that sums it up. Actually, she knows not love in any case - she has not love for herself or anyone.

Everything we Fear in life likely can be quieted with Understanding. When we know - really know and understand, we feel confident, secure - and it shows.  When we are confused, lied to or about, wrapped in negativity, we are fearful. This kind of fear causes anxiety and depression and people often turn to coping mechanisms in order to survive.

Sometimes Fear is not the enemy but it is a compass pointing to areas in our lives that need attention and understanding.

This is why we sit with the fear for a moment or two before working to escort it out of our lives. Is this fear or negativity in our lives to teach us something or perhaps to point us in a better direction?

Fear is a Liar

It is fear that tells us we cannot do something, or that we are less than, or that we are not good enough. Narcissists will tell you all of these things also and it is fear that drives their behavior.  Narcissists are the biggest liars I've ever seen.  And best ones I might add.

Do yourself a favor and cheat on your fears, break up with those doubts and connect with yourself and others. Runaway with your dreams!!

Love doesn't hurt... people who know not Love, hurt themselves and others.